Friday, April 2, 2010

Love, Life and Marriage...

Today we(myself and group of 10 of my good friends/colleagues), had a chat after lunch at the office premises. The topic of choice was an ever-green and interesting one "How each of us expect our marriage to be...". It started of just as any other conversation, guys complaining about girls, making fun of each other, and in other words "Really enjoying our after-lunch break".

  Actually we were trying to figure out, how a guy should approach a girl(he really likes) in the first place? Should he just go out to her and just chat? What if you don't know the girl at all? Or you haven't spoke to the girl since high school and you are seeing her everyday on the bus whilst coming to office? There were a lot of what if's in our conversation. And I seriously don't know how to express to someone that you really like her/him.

As our conversation grew, I was surprised to find out that everyone in our "little" gang belonged to a different category. Let me put it down as a list...

  1. One who is already committed.
  2. One who is madly in love, and thinks he's pretty romantic in his actions.
  3. One who befriends a lot of girls and hasn't fallen for any of them(the latter part may not be correct).
  4. One who thinks of himself as "Mounam Pesiyathae" Surya, and thinks he'll never fall in love.
  5. One who is acts as if he doesn't know about women at all.
  6. One who is adamant not to fall in love until marriage.
  7. One who has kind of a "Take it easy" character, and never worries about anything at all.
  8. One who is very friendly with everyone.
  9. One who gives a kind of a sarcastic comment for every word.
  10. One who i am not sure about.

I am surprised to find out people can say that they can live without falling in love with anyone, then marry a girl  who their parents choose and try and love that girl and hope she loves you back as much as you expect.

Personally, I believe that every one in this world should fall in love, just for the heck of it. Only then you'll find out the "real" you, the part of yourself you never knew existed. You will do things that you never thought you could do. Things like... Talking to her over the phone at night, even after spending the entire morning with her. Talking to her for hours together even thought you had nothing to talk to. Talking to her, longer than your combined talk time with every one else, on a single call.  Ignoring every one around you when she is near. Feeling frustrated when she talks with someone you don't know.

Finding someone you can fall in love with madly, is the best thing that can happen t you. The more interesting and challenging part is the one in which you try to make her see you the same way, you see her.

Even though love can make you feel as light as a feather, enabling you to fly, it can also make you feel as heavy as an broken anchor  at the bottom of the deepest ocean without the chain.

And finally, I believe that if you really like someone you shouldn't care about what others might think. Just follow the path your heart chooses. Don't waste time  thinking about the consequences your actions might cause. Just do it. Cause everyone deserves to tell the person they like, how mush they like em.

I know this post might be a little too quirky and might even make you feel uncomfortable, the reason I decided to write this in the first place is because of that "after-lunch chat". But the main reason was cause im sitting at my home, its 2 in the morning, and I cant sleep. More to follow...

5 comments:

  1. Good post da . Sorry i wasn't home yest . Didnt check out your mail .Even I thought of writing that Chat we had. Konjam 'Adult' a aaidumennu thaan vitutten . You have filtered well :D . And big task is to find out which is which in the list of 10 ppl whom you have posted . Jenish , You and Me , i can vaguely figure out . Rest la lot of confeeshan.

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  2. Kanna, good one da. Really nice to read. Infact, a true fact of life. Good one da machan.

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  3. Nice post Kanna...

    Yet reading the para 'Personally, I believe that...' reminds me 'Kadal oru aripu mathiri, soriya soriya sugama irukum, aprum patha thittu thitta veengipoirukum :p' from Sillunu Oru Kadal

    Hey no offence meant for love :)

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  4. machi, scene da!! looking forward to your next one,.

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  5. everyone deserves to tell the person they like, how mush they like em....."Use pannikaran"

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